Posted by: GPK | 27.August.2009

The flip side of abundance…Still work to be done! 5 steps to get started!

Still work to be done! The flip side of abundance.

Spiderman’s Grandfather said, “With great power comes great responsibility.”  It seems no matter how much we appreciate what we have, what we’ve accomplished, what we’re capable of, there’s always still work to be done.  Even when we’re mindful of the abundance of the universe, there’s a responsibility that comes with it. There’s always growing yet to do.

When we notice our personal dragons (fears) governing our decisions rather than simply advising us about our experience, we start to jump to unhealthy conclusions.  Our imaginations begin to run amuck and we begin to see fear in everything.  No matter how much soul searching we may have done in the past, there’s more work to be done.  It’s time to get back to work.

Like digging a hole in the sand at the ocean’s edge.  Eventually the tide comes back in and fills it in.  Unlike at the ocean, however, when we do the digging into our soul, we find beauty, strength, and growth.  We learn, we get smarter, we get better!

It’s hard work, to be sure, but “finishing” the work isn’t nearly as important as starting it.  I’ve been thinking about the first few steps that this bold move might require.  Here are some thoughts…

1)    You can work on you.  You are responsible for you and the way you see the world.  You are not responsible for the way others see the world.  You can work on you and leave the working on others, to others.
2)    You are resourceful.  When my kids were little sometimes they would say “I can’t do it.”  I’d ask “Did you use all of your strength?”  If they said “Yes”, I’d ask, “Did you ask me?”  If they said “No.”  I’d say, “Then you didn’t use ALL of your strength!”  (This idea came from a great book on parenting by my colleague Zig Ziglar called How to Raise Positive Kids in a Negative World.)  Your friends, your family, professional therapists and coaches, really compassionate bloggers (he, he) are just a few examples of folks who can be considered resources for you.
3)    Moving forward doesn’t close doors, it opens them.  Taking the time to tackle the task of intellectual and emotional growth requires a commitment.  It may, in the immediate term, take you away from people and things that are important to you.  In the long run your growth will make you stronger, more prepared, more open to deeper connections.
4)    Get to it.  Once you’ve decided to do the work, make sure you tackle a little bit each day.  Commit to reading a little each day or begin an exercise program or begin the habit of meditation at morning and night.  Little things like this add up quickly in your emotional bank account.
5)    Celebrate.  Give yourself huge amounts of credit for having the courage and strength the recognize the challenge and begin to change your responses to it.  There will be pain involved.  Some tears.  Maybe a lot of tears.  Your growth will give you greater strength to manage the fear, sadness and sense of loss that may come with expanding your reach.  It’s worth it.  Scary, but worth it!

Every day celebrate the little victories.  Celebrate the times you stepped forward in love as a new habit (instead of cringing in fear).  Sometimes the tiniest first steps lead to bold power.  Life is like a cliff jump.  That first step might scare the daylights out of you, half way down you may think “what the heck did I just do?” and then a moment later, you’re screaming in joy and beaming with pride!  Scary, but worth it!

At the end of the day, when you look up into the stars you always have a choice.  You can think “Holy cow, I’m so insignificant!” and feel tiny, resource-less, and weak.

Or you can feel connected, resourceful, and strong and think “See what I’m capable of!”

Peace and gratitude,




  1. See what I am capable of? Exactly!

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